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“Dear brothers and sisters,
My wedding day is approaching very soon, and I literally have no money to pay for the bare minimum expenses, such as clothing and the wedding hall.
I beg of every Jewish soul to please open your heart and donate whatever possible to my wedding fund. Please open your hearts and help me and my Chosson build a Bayis Neeman!
You have an incredible opportunity to invest in the great mitzva of hachnosas kallah!
Please do not turn me away empty-handed.
In the zechus of helping me, Hashem should send you shefa and hatzlacha in all areas of life in good health.
Tizku limitzvos.
Efrat”
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My family was always blessed to earn six figures, but never felt the need to pay $35k for a wedding for myself or my siblings. Especially now during Covid, people are downsizing and using creative and affordable ways to make weddings. I’ll give them $4 for a bottle of Kedem Concorde wine, and that is absolutely acceptable and halachically sufficient.
Amen to that!
Your family makes six figures, and you gave 4$ !?
Mi Keamcha Israel !
Doesn’t matter that I agree 100% with you on the wedding budget ..
Umm Dave , I wouldn’t assume that just because the goal of the campaign is$35,000 that there what they are spending on the wedding.
I don’t earn close to 6 figures, and lives as frugally as I can. Yet, I can tell you that expenses add up, BH.
(And yes that means also not getting most deals on DansDeals, except for what I need š
Hatzlacha!
Count you blessing and be thankful for what your family has.. the same g-d that gives can just as easily take away. This disgusting attitude of feeling the absolute need to post something negative about a fundraiser for a cause you know nothing about, but don’t believe in says so much about who you are a person..
Just get the rabbi to your home and have the wedding. That is the most important thing
It does not say that they need $35,000 for the wedding, it says they need 35k to make the wedding and start them off.
An apartment requires a security deposit and some months rent, furnish it etc people need clothing and the basics and it cost money .
Apologies, but seems like me me me…
Wedding a rabbi and done (Free?)
Furniture Salvation Army, Goodwill gas quality used items or Ikea new items. Not going to be over $1000
Deposit 1st Month and last 1 or 2 at a 1500 rent… $4500…
So under 6000 without taking into consideration Stimulus checks etc.
Apologies but when it’s a true cause, bread winner died, serious illness go for it.
But 35k for a wedding? To each their own but seems excessive…
Guys ! Stop doing the calculation for others !
Ths same as you don’t want that others will do for you !
When one decides to request free money in a public forum, you can question all you want… There is no real
I’m not saying anything about THIS specific ad but one should check if indeed legitimate before giving any substantial amount. Even when “The Chesed Fund” shows “verified” it doesn’t mean much I have learned from others!
Well here’s the thing (and I’m talking with generality too, not targeted to any specific campaign)- when a campaign is collecting for loss of a home or automobile— 1. I believe it’s fair to ask about whether there was renter’s/homeowners/or auto insurance coverage before hundreds of thousands or millions of dollars are raised. 2. When one is collecting on behalf of one who was sick, undergoing medical treatments, or complex dental procedures, it’s reasonable to inquire about whether the beneficiary had health/dental insurance and/or Medicare/Medicaid.3. And lastly, in the past year alone— the frum world could have reallocated tens of millions of dollars towards other tzedaka projects if a larger percentage of people pursued a life insurance policy. — It’s understandable that copays, deductibles, and co-insurance are cost-prohibitive for many, and tzedaka is beautifully designed to assist those that are finding it challenging to meet those out of pocket expenses before insurance ‘kicks in’. I haven’t and won’t feel comfortable giving to those campaigns where the beneficiary didn’t hold an insurance policy, didn’t show proof of an attempt for coverage, or didn’t show proof of an insurance denial- with attempts to appeal the insurance denial.
Are you really willing to be judged by the same standards you judge others?
And if you say ‘its my money..’ Is it? and is it guaranteed?
Just be thankful that you can be on the giving end and not on the receiving end..
I agree with most of your comment, but I don’t post anything in order not to dampen another yid’s enthusiasm for giving tzedoko.
Please don’t do that again.
Dave, with all due respect, please show this this thread to your local orthodox rabbi or your rosh yeshiva etc. Ask him whether the comments are correct or callous. Please, you see people are bothered by these comments, so let’s not trust ourselves.
Thank you!
Our Rosh Kollel stressed the vital importance and histadlus of Yungelite carrying life insurance, and part of the kesuba requires taking care of the family’s health needs via insurance coverage. No need to reiterate what my Rav has advised of us. The very essence learned of Chosson classes is that a wedding lasts a few hours, a marriage and shalom bayis is through 120+. Those 120 years should be the Ikkur, not the fancy wedding.
Agreed- we’re on the same page about that (I have life insurance, and my wedding was as simple as it gets – at least pre corona).
I am by no means downplaying the importance of the issues you are bringing up.
I am saying that in this forum responding to this post is hurtful.
I commend you on making correct finincial moves, and perhaps you should take it to a larger scale in encouraging the klal.
Please ask your rosh kollel whether it is proper to comment here though .
( By the way I hope I didn’t come across as attacking you, because that’s the last thing that I want to do, and as much as I can know about someone from a blog- you sound like a great person andsomeo who really cares.
I am only responding because I do have sensitivity to this. So could you do me a chesed and just ask and humor me ?? š
Hatzlacha!!
Adversity builds character. Being a schnorrer does not. At the age of 16 I slept on subways and never once asked for help. I did what I had to do to make something of myself and felt proud of my later success. Money is not needed for a wedding. If they need a place to live until they get on their feet, they have parents from the sound of things. I don’t understand how anyone can look in the mirror and like what they see if this is how they start their life together.
@dan based on the comments below, I think that it might be time to turn off commenting on advertised posts
+1
Dan?
Hashem should help
You really lose me at “I literally have no money to pay for the bare minimum expenses, such as clothing and the wedding hall.” There are widows, orhpans, sick people, etc., all in need of Tzedakah… but a “wedding hall” is a “bare necessity” calling for charity? It’s certainly *nice* to have a wedding party, but hardly a necessity, much less a bare one. Thanks to covid, a lot of us have celebrated zoom weddings and b’nai mitzvahs, no party. And you know what? The kids were just as “bar mitvahed,” and the couples were just as married.
Another example of a absolute tragedy, where $350,000 is being asked for. A shul in Lakewood burned down over the weekend, and R’L a Sefer Torah was included in the loss. As a former president of a shul with familiarity of a shul’s insurance policy, the biggest question I have is why does there need to be a campaign for $350K if insurance coverage would take care of the building structure, merchandise loss (chairs, tables, Siddurim, Chumashim, and the Sefer Torah)?? There are special riders on insurance policies for coverage on a Sefer Torah, just as there are for special jewelry/wedding rings on one’s home policy. Nothing will ever bring back the horrific loss of losing a Torah, but insurance will reimburse towards a replacement. It’s just remarkable that these things aren’t discussed in the frum Olam.